Hello my pretty pink petticoats,
Today I wanted to do a little post on how I like to de-stress and manage the unnecessary, niggly worries that can take over and control our everyday thoughts. Now if you don’t really have this issue, then you are one lucky person my friend and I’m very jealous! I am the absolute queeeen of overthinking and stressing over the most ridiculous things and I’ll be the first to admit it! I’ve been like it for as long as I can remember and not a day goes by where I don’t have an anxious thought of some sort pass through my lil’ noggin. And it’s usually a case of me being 100% aware of how silly I’m being as well, but it still doesn’t stop those sweeping waves of worry that hit on a daily basis. It could be something so minor – I’ll think of it, worry for a few minutes and then not think about it again, or it could be the complete polar opposite where I can be fixated on something for days on end! It really does vary and you never know what will hit at what time and how long for, which is why it can be so easy to suddenly get in some right ol’ pickles!
Over the years however, I’ve learnt how to manage those irrational thoughts that I’ve grown to perceive as huge balls of unnecessary energy that are just exhaaaustingggg! If you know, you know! I’ve made myself feel physically sick with overthinking the tiniest of worries, that have then blown way out of proportion and made the whole situation 10x worse! And it really is all in your head, (well maybe not all of it) but certainly a lot is just your mind being like, ‘you know that thing you’re thinking? You know it’s not even a problem? Let’s think about it so much that it turns into one, in fact let’s think of all the possible things that could go wrong-there is no way you’re sleeping tonight hunnybun!’ And putting things into perspective that way has honestly made me realise that the mind is a very powerful thing and only if you allow it, will it control how you think about and act upon situations.
So below I’m going to list just a few worries/thoughts/anxieties that have affected me in the past and some that still do to this day…
- The not knowing of what the future holds- when will I move out?.. what job will I be in in 5 years time? .. will my degree come into good use?
- Work- I hope I’m doing my job properl.., what do others think of me?.. will I progress here?.. ‘am I happy in this job?..
- Your dream career path and not even knowing where to start (I think we all know the feeling here)- will I ever make it to where I want to be?..
- University- will I fail my exams? .. how can I juggle a uni course and a part time job and a social life? … will I finish my course with a good class?.. will I even be able to keep on top of all this work?
- School/A Levels/GCSE’s- what if I need to re-take exams?.. this is so much coursework, how is it possible to complete?.. will I get into sixth form with my grades?.. will I even make it to uni?
- Health- oo that doesn’t look/feel quite right, shall I get it checked out?.. what if I catch this?.. what if I get that when I’m older?..
- Money- I need to make sure I budget so I can survive the month.. will I have enough money for that?.. can I afford this?.. will I ever be able to save up and afford my own home one day?
Okay so those are just a few of hundreds of anxieties that I’m sure are experienced by the majority of people across the world. They’re just everyday worries that are completely normal to have, however as they can’t exactly be avoided or ignored, it’s how we manage those thoughts, that makes our lives all the more easier and peaceful. So I’m going to share with you my top 5 ways I manage my worries, and de-stress from the craziness of everyday life-that I think really help!
Write, write and write some more – okay, so I know not everyone is a fan of writing and that’s totally fine, everyone is different and everyone organises their lives in different ways. However, I would be so unbelievably lost without my journal and my pen, I cannot even tell you! I’m a huge list gal, and pretty much everything that I need to make sure I do or remember, is jotted down straight away. I like to plan what needs to be done, how I’m going to go about doing it and when I’m going to get started. Now recently, I feel like I’ve hit a brick wall in terms of my blogging. I’ve been feeling the bloggers block and have had no motivation to get out and do. I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one that this has happened to but it’s not a very nice weight to feel. Even though I’ve wanted nothing more than to get out and take some amazing photography and plan some beautiful outfits, I’ve just been feeling unmotivated and uninspired to say the least.
However, a bit of a revelation occurred a few weeks ago and I had a huge turnaround. In short, I came across this pretty pastel blue ‘Ideas Journal’ in Paperchase and couldn’t resist picking it up and flicking through. In a nutshell, it’s a really amazing pick me up journal that gets you to answer questions about yourself, where you are in your life at the moment and where you want to get to. It includes lovely uplifting quotes and asks you to describe yourself (or get others to describe you) and your best traits and qualities- which is a huge confidence boost if you’re feeling low! It really is the most effective and engaging journal that I’ve ever come across and I’m so glad I purchased it because, going through and completing it page by page and covering all the different sections and everything, is actually really refreshing and completely puts things in your life into perspective!
It takes you through a planning process as well so you can think about and write down everything that you’re doing at the moment and everything that needs to be done (or that you want to be done) and then how you’re going to do it. I will pop the link to the journal here for you to check out– I would highly recommend purchasing it if you’re having a bit of a block in life or just need a space where you can plan everything that’s going on at the moment. It’s definitely the best thing I’ve purchased in a while!
Have a cry- Now this is another thing that I know many people would never let themselves do, especially in times where they feel they are just ‘being silly’ or ‘overreacting.’ However I believe that if you are upset or worried or stressed out about something, whatever that may be, that sometimes the natural reaction that begins to rear it’s head, is the tears. And it’s one of those few emotions that really can’t be held back and has to just be let out (and no one likes ugly crying faces but sometimes it’s gotta be done). And I don’t know about anyone else, but a good cry does actually do wonders a lot of the time and personally I find myself going, ‘I feel better now I’ve got that out,’ purely because I know it’s been brewing for a while and I’ve finally reached my limit.
Take a breather and do what you love- This is so so important to remember. Taking time out from whatever’s getting to you and doing what you love best, really reminds you of the positive aspects in your life. Sometimes it feels as if nothing is going your way, and you’re being cursed with all the bad luck in the world but removing yourself from the situations that are causing you grief and absorbing yourself into a place that you love, does the world of good. Not to say ignore everything that’s going on in your life and completely cut yourself off, but sometimes turning off your phone, making a huge mug of tea (I’m talking ‘Sports Direct’ style) and cuddling up in a fluffy blanket with a Disney marathon, is the answer to many of life’s problems. Okay maybe not that far, but bloody damn close!
Talk it out- Again, another activity that some people would rather not take part in, but sometimes even talking aloud to yourself clears your head a little and puts things into perspective. We get so caught up in our own heads, with our own little voice, and our own personal worries that we don’t know whether we’re coming or going, so to talk it out with a family member or a friend is sometimes all that’s needed to take the weight off your shoulders.
And last but definitely not least…
TAKE ACTION- we all take action in different ways but personally, I found completing my new ‘Ideas Journal,’ was the best thing I’d decided to do in a long time. It made me remember why I started this blog in the first place and inspired me all over again, to get up and do what I love, to achieve what I want to achieve in my life. It sparked new ideas, put my life goals into perspective and generally made me realise that what I’ve done so far in life is amazing, and the fact that I’m happy and am working towards goals for the future is more than enough. Everyone goes through life stages at different times so don’t feel disheartened or knocked down by seeing others who seem ‘to be miles ahead’or ‘more successful’. You will unknowingly have always achieved things that others may not have, with many things more to come – and that’s very special.
So I’d love to know- how do you de-stress from life’s madness and manage thoughts that seem to spiral out of control? Do you have tactics to make you feel better about certain situations? And who else escapes by curling up in bed with a cuppa and Disney? Haha! X